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When the Body Speaks: The Label Is the Lens
Teenage boys and menopausal women may seem worlds apart, but both navigate intense hormonal shifts that change how they interpret the world. Our bodies are the interface through which we experience life. The labels we give to sensations shape our reality. But when hormones shift, familiar signals can feel unfamiliar leading to misinterpretation. Learning to read the body accurately, especially during transitions, is key to emotional clarity, better communication, and self-und

Frieda van der Merwe
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Stress Signals: When the Warning Light Stays On Too Long
While short-term stress can be helpful, chronic stress is toxic. Prolonged exposure to high cortisol levels harms your immune system, gut, and heart, increasing the risk of serious illness. This post explores why recognising limits, letting go of the impossible, and choosing rest isn’t weakness, but wisdom. Stress is a signal, not a flaw. When we learn to listen, we don’t just survive, but protect our health and reclaim our strength.

Frieda van der Merwe
6 days ago2 min read
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Stress Signals: Don’t Fix the Symptom — Follow Them
Fidgeting, overeating, nail-biting — these behaviours aren’t flaws. They’re the body’s early stress signals, offering a chance to respond with compassion. Backed by research like Damasio’s somatic marker theory, this blog explores how noticing these signs — in ourselves or our children — can spark connection and healing. Stress isn’t the enemy; disconnection is. When we respond with empathy and curiosity, we turn stress into a shared strength. Let’s learn to listen — and lean

Frieda van der Merwe
6 days ago2 min read
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The Chemistry of Connection: How Stress Builds Resilience
A study found that stress isn’t the killer. Your belief about stress is. Those with high stress and a belief it was harmful had a 43% higher risk of early death. But stressed individuals who saw it as non-harmful had the best health outcomes. Why? Because stress also releases oxytocin — the "connection hormone" — which fosters empathy and bonding. When you face stress with others, you don’t just survive, but you actually grow stronger, together.

Frieda van der Merwe
6 days ago2 min read
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PART 2 — Break Free From The Drama Triangle: From Critic To Coach, Do It With Kindness
This video shows how self-kindness breaks the internal Drama Triangle and improves external relationships and conflict management.

Frieda van der Merwe
Apr 43 min read
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PART 1 — Break Free From The Drama Triangle: It Starts In Your Head
We play Victim, Rescuer, or Persecutor in our minds. This video shows how self-awareness can break the inner drama cycle.

Frieda van der Merwe
Apr 32 min read
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PART 2 — Escape The Drama Triangle: How To Recognise Hardwired Patterns
Your drama triangle role isn’t random — it’s a survival pattern from childhood. Spot it, understand it, and break the cycle.

Frieda van der Merwe
Mar 264 min read
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PART 1 — Escape The Drama Triangle: How To Master Manage Conflict
Stuck in conflict? Learn how the Drama Triangle traps you — and how to break free with better communication and boundaries.

Frieda van der Merwe
Mar 243 min read
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