From childhood memories under her mother’s desk to reflections on parental roles today, this post explores how unequal leave reinforces outdated norms—and how true equality begins with shared presence, not just shared tasks.

Rapunzel’s story isn’t just about escape — it’s about inherited trauma and transformation. This post reframes the fairy tale through the lens of generational patterns, resilience, and the power to rewrite what we’ve been handed.

The Little Match Girl isn’t just a sad story — it’s a metaphor for emotional survival. This post explores how self-soothing can keep us stuck, and why true resilience means knowing when to stop lighting emotional matches and start taking real action.

Antifragile means gaining strength from stress, failure, and disorder. This post explores how individuals and teams can grow through adversity — learning from mistakes, adapting under pressure, and rising stronger. Inspired by Nassim Nicholas Taleb’s concept, it’s a mindset shift from “Why me?” to “What now?”

Victimhood can feel like safety, but real power begins when you stop waiting to be rescued. This post explores the shift from Victim to Creator — and ultimately to Victor — through the lens of the Drama Triangle, the Empowerment Dynamic, and anti-fragility.

The voice in your head isn’t always a mentor — it’s often a bully. This post explores how internal roles like Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor shape self-talk, and how to shift them using the Empowerment Dynamic for true inner transformation.

The Karpman Drama Triangle doesn’t just play out in relationships — it lives in your mind. This post explores the Internal Drama Triangle and how to shift from self-criticism to self-compassion using David Emerald’s Empowerment Dynamic. Real change begins with kindness — to yourself.

Systems shape who we become. This post explores how early environments and group dynamics influence mental health—and what makes a system healthy: openness, shared load, flexible roles, and real feedback. Part of the From Blame to Balance series.

Healing doesn’t always stick — not because you failed, but because the system around you stayed the same. This post explores how lasting change requires not just personal growth, but a shift in the patterns and relationships that surround us.

Your nervous system needs nourishment too—through movement, learning, sensory input, and rest. This post explores how to recognise and honour your personal “daily dose” to support clarity, balance, and wellbeing.

The middle of change is messy. You’re still living one life while building the next. This post explores the Neutral Zone—where identity shifts, loss hits hard, and structure keeps you grounded through personal or organisational transformation. We explore the fundamentals of change.

Not all relationships are equal. Some drain you, others build you up. Inspired by Adam Grant’s “Give and Take,” this post explores how givers, takers, and matchers shape connection — and why, when two givers meet, the results are transformative.

The word “sin” is rooted in the Greek word “hamartia”, which means “to miss the mark” . We miss when we silence our wants, aim wrong, or don’t aim at all. True growth starts with the courage to know what we want and the clarity to ask for it. This reflection explores how unspoken desires and fear of rejection keep us stuck — and how speaking with honesty, even at risk, helps us realign with who we’re meant to become. Asking clearly is how we learn to aim better.

Sometimes joy arrives unexpectedly — after a workout, under a bright sky, in a sudden surge of aliveness. In those moments, don’t rush past it. Pause. Feel it. Store it. Research shows that savouring joy strengthens the brain’s ability to recall it later, building resilience for harder times. This isn’t about chasing happiness, but anchoring fleeting light. When joy sneaks in, let it stay. Let it remind you: life can feel this good again. Catch that falling star — and keep it

Every woman needs female friends. The kind who stay, who witness your life, who remind you who you are. I’ve moved countries, but I’ve kept my friendships alive through calls, voice notes, and effort. These bonds aren’t just emotional—they’re physiological, supporting calm and resilience. They ground you, reflect you, and hold your history when memory fades. True friendship is more than connection. It’s continuity. It’s belonging. It’s medicine.

We can glorify willpower and discipline, but white-knuckling through pain isn’t healing, it’s surviving. This blog challenges the myth that sheer mental force leads to lasting change. Discipline can support routines, but it becomes toxic when it suppresses emotions or overrides deep needs - merely redirecting the pain, not resolving it. Real transformation begins with listening to what behaviours are telling us. Healing happens through compassion, connection, understanding th

For years, I believed hard work alone led to success — until I discovered the power of stepping back. After preparing for an exam, I let go, laughed, and listened to joyful music. I performed better than ever. Neuroscience supports this: the brain connects ideas and consolidates memory during rest. Effects like the Default Mode Network, the Zeigarnik Effect, and priming show that release enhances performance. The lesson: do the work, then defocus. The magic often happens when

Teenage boys and menopausal women may seem worlds apart, but both navigate intense hormonal shifts that change how they interpret the world. Our bodies are the interface through which we experience life. The labels we give to sensations shape our reality. But when hormones shift, familiar signals can feel unfamiliar leading to misinterpretation. Learning to read the body accurately, especially during transitions, is key to emotional clarity, better communication, and self-und

What if the problem isn’t in the person, but in the pattern? Explore how systems theory shifts our understanding of mental health, change, and healing.

Many of us use intellect as armour — analysing pain instead of feeling it. This elegant self-protection can look like maturity, but often masks fear of being overwhelmed. True healing doesn’t come from understanding alone; it comes from allowing ourselves to feel. Insight can walk beside us — but it shouldn’t shield us from the softness that brings healing.