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Missing the Mark: What Sin Really Is
The word “sin” is rooted in the Greek word “hamartia”, which means “to miss the mark” . We miss when we silence our wants, aim wrong, or don’t aim at all. True growth starts with the courage to know what we want and the clarity to ask for it. This reflection explores how unspoken desires and fear of rejection keep us stuck — and how speaking with honesty, even at risk, helps us realign with who we’re meant to become. Asking clearly is how we learn to aim better.

Frieda van der Merwe
21 hours ago2 min read
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Catch a Falling Star and Put It in Your Pocket: Why We Should Hold On to Moments of Pure Joy
Sometimes joy arrives unexpectedly — after a workout, under a bright sky, in a sudden surge of aliveness. In those moments, don’t rush past it. Pause. Feel it. Store it. Research shows that savouring joy strengthens the brain’s ability to recall it later, building resilience for harder times. This isn’t about chasing happiness, but anchoring fleeting light. When joy sneaks in, let it stay. Let it remind you: life can feel this good again. Catch that falling star — and keep it

Frieda van der Merwe
23 hours ago2 min read
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You Can’t Discipline Yourself Out of a Wound: Why White-Knuckling Fails and What Actually Heals
We can glorify willpower and discipline, but white-knuckling through pain isn’t healing, it’s surviving. This blog challenges the myth that sheer mental force leads to lasting change. Discipline can support routines, but it becomes toxic when it suppresses emotions or overrides deep needs - merely redirecting the pain, not resolving it. Real transformation begins with listening to what behaviours are telling us. Healing happens through compassion, connection, understanding th

Frieda van der Merwe
23 hours ago3 min read
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Stress and Time Management in a Modern World: Old Tools, New Wisdom
Stress isn’t the enemy — it’s essential for growth. The key is finding the sweet spot where challenge fuels performance without tipping into burnout. Burnout often comes not from doing too much, but from doing what’s misaligned for too long. Tools like the Eisenhower Matrix and ShadowMatch help manage energy, not just time. Early stress cues are signals, not failures. With awareness and intention, we can use stress wisely and build not just balance, but true resilience.

Frieda van der Merwe
23 hours ago2 min read
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The Magic Of Defocus
For years, I believed hard work alone led to success — until I discovered the power of stepping back. After preparing for an exam, I let go, laughed, and listened to joyful music. I performed better than ever. Neuroscience supports this: the brain connects ideas and consolidates memory during rest. Effects like the Default Mode Network, the Zeigarnik Effect, and priming show that release enhances performance. The lesson: do the work, then defocus. The magic often happens when

Frieda van der Merwe
24 hours ago2 min read
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