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The Tower and the Trade: Rapunzel and Generational Trauma
Rapunzel’s story isn’t just about escape — it’s about inherited trauma and transformation. This post reframes the fairy tale through the lens of generational patterns, resilience, and the power to rewrite what we’ve been handed.

Frieda van der Merwe
Jul 172 min read


What The Little Match Girl Teaches Us About Resilience
The Little Match Girl isn’t just a sad story — it’s a metaphor for emotional survival. This post explores how self-soothing can keep us stuck, and why true resilience means knowing when to stop lighting emotional matches and start taking real action.

Frieda van der Merwe
Jul 172 min read


Antifragile: Strength Isn’t Born In Comfort But Mined From Mistakes
Antifragile means gaining strength from stress, failure, and disorder. This post explores how individuals and teams can grow through adversity — learning from mistakes, adapting under pressure, and rising stronger. Inspired by Nassim Nicholas Taleb’s concept, it’s a mindset shift from “Why me?” to “What now?”

Frieda van der Merwe
Jul 172 min read


From Victim to Victor: You’re Not the Damsel in Distress
Victimhood can feel like safety, but real power begins when you stop waiting to be rescued. This post explores the shift from Victim to Creator — and ultimately to Victor — through the lens of the Drama Triangle, the Empowerment Dynamic, and anti-fragility.

Frieda van der Merwe
Jul 172 min read


The Bully Within: Let’s Look At Self-talk
The voice in your head isn’t always a mentor — it’s often a bully. This post explores how internal roles like Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor shape self-talk, and how to shift them using the Empowerment Dynamic for true inner transformation.

Frieda van der Merwe
Jul 172 min read


Rethinking the Drama Triangle — How Internal Roles Become External Patterns
The Karpman Drama Triangle doesn’t just play out in relationships — it lives in your mind. This post explores the Internal Drama Triangle and how to shift from self-criticism to self-compassion using David Emerald’s Empowerment Dynamic. Real change begins with kindness — to yourself.

Frieda van der Merwe
Jul 172 min read


It’s the Circle of Life: The Psychology of Systems
Systems shape who we become. This post explores how early environments and group dynamics influence mental health—and what makes a system healthy: openness, shared load, flexible roles, and real feedback. Part of the From Blame to Balance series.

Frieda van der Merwe
Jul 172 min read


It’s More Than a Feeling: What your nervous system is really asking for — and why you need your daily dose
Your nervous system needs nourishment too—through movement, learning, sensory input, and rest. This post explores how to recognise and honour your personal “daily dose” to support clarity, balance, and wellbeing.

Frieda van der Merwe
Jul 172 min read


Stuck in the Middle With Me: The Fundamentals of Change
The middle of change is messy. You’re still living one life while building the next. This post explores the Neutral Zone—where identity shifts, loss hits hard, and structure keeps you grounded through personal or organisational transformation. We explore the fundamentals of change.

Frieda van der Merwe
Jul 172 min read
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